Yes, you can be independent and, yes, codependency can be risky and troublesome. However, being able to count on and rely on others can be unmeasurably rewarding, along with coming with countless benefits. You don’t have to force yourself into a group, especially if you don’t seem to fit, but how great is it when you do find (or form) the group where you do belong in?
You get to be more, do more, achieve more, and go further. If you are the kind of person who can quickly and easily solve most, if not all things, by yourself, coming along or going along with others can seem like a burden and, in some cases, actually be. But there are cases in which you’d be limiting yourself if you remain by yourself.
Learning and practicing socialization and all that it entails would be one of the first things that tends to be pointed out in regard to working together. And rightfully so! That’s an indispensable skill that you must have at least to the degree that allows you to fend for yourself and navigate crowds. But there’s a lot more to it.
No, it’s not about conforming and settling for less. You get fuel; in the form of inspiration and motivation. You get confidence; through acceptance, validation, reassurance, and encouragement. You get support; whether via shared resources or personal assistance. You get fortitude; when you move with purpose in cooperation. You get shelter; when others defend you and fight for you. You get meaning; having experiences and making memories is just extra significant when accompanied.
For sure, you require your own space and your own pace. You, as an individual, should also develop yourself separately. And maybe you require more alone time than most - and that’s fine. Nevertheless, if being part of a collective is something that appeals to you, then you may as well be. Watch out for any that aims to strip you of your own personhood or lead you into your worst self, though! *Ahem* Literal cults.
For reach and impact, at a larger scale, there’s going to be a point where you NEED more people around you. Because you simply cannot accomplish it all. They’ll bring their expertise and/or their unique gifts. And most likely, you won’t always smoothly click in place with each other. Yet, undeniably, they are worthwhile and make things better and greater.
Some of us are eternal wanderers who come and go or are not quite ready yet to settle anywhere. Perhaps something like that is your fate. And you are an episode or a season in the lives of others until you part. It is important to recognize if this is your role. So that you can make your contribution and be on your way on good terms. Without betrayal or broken promises, if it can be helped. Then you will be remembered with fondness and gratitude.
