Something seems off, but is it? Your intuition and/or your gut may be trying to tell you something - or warn you of something - but can they be trusted? Wouldn’t it be irresponsible to make important decisions based on some inexplicable discomfort?
A lot of the time, the “inexplicable discomfort” is well-founded and, indeed, you could have saved yourself plenty of trouble or worse if you had just taken it as a sign to stay away or at least proceed with caution. But many times, also, this discomfort is no more than the result of prejudice and entitlement, a misguided or twisted belief in your superiority and merit tied with the expectation to be catered to your every whim - and anything outside of that is “wrong” and intolerable. At times, it can also be the result of trauma, keeping you in a state of fear wouldn’t let you anywhere close, not even remotely, to what could again hurt or harm you - as you cannot properly handle any more of it.
Hence, these signs, which on occasion come from the subconscious perception and processing of patterns and details that would inform you of what can potentially happen or is guaranteed to happen, are not always a reliable mechanism. For some people, there are usually above 90% chances to be correct. While for other people, there are usually below 10% chances to be correct. And all that’s in between.
It takes talent, skill, knowledge, wisdom, and fine-tuning to be an optimal detector. And arguably, this becomes more and more of a lost art as we are now bombarded with so much that is false and fake, so we are training this feature in us with artificial information that won’t lead to what’s true and real.
Therefore, we have to make the unconscious conscious. It is an arduous task that is not meant for everyone. Not worthwhile in every situation and under every circumstance, either. But it is something someone has to do. Preferably enough of us.
Getting the abstract to the concrete works wonders in offering you clarity and stability. Noticing one little thing here and another there, how they connect, and what they reveal. Committed to grasping the picture as it is and then conveying it. It could go a number of different ways and still be accurate, addressing parts or layers of it. And if it had been making you restless, weighing on you, it can give you exactly the deliverance and closure that you craved and maybe even yearned for, too.
Subjectivity matters, but here’s where you ought to be more objective. In fact, you should be stripping the objective of what’s subjective, untangling it, separating one from the other whenever you can. Realize when an assumption is an assumption, when there is a misinterpretation, when there’s a projection, and when there’s an agenda, selectively picking and misconstruing reality to serve certain interests rather than the truth. Look for motive and intention. And do not be tricked by facades and cover-ups.
Your arguments, then, to describe and/or explain what is happening should be firmly grounded. There are numerous tactics to make arguments so appealing that they are easily persuasive and convincing, taking advantage of wishful thinking and more. But they won’t pass the test of time, when what is true and real becomes more evident and undeniable, nor the test of the viciously curious minds who’d eagerly cut through any illusion and break apart any lie, intensely unsettled by incoherences and incongruences.
It is easier and quicker to make up and spread lies than it is to find and tell the truth. But if that’s your calling, stick with it and, sooner or later, it’ll get done and it will be better than any lousy fabrication.
